green flag? red flag advice...?

Hi guys- so idk if you’ve read my essay lol.- but here it is again if you haven’t read it:

So. Long story short-

Hi guys! Idk if you’re bored, but I have TEA (heh).

I was dating a guy the first 2 months of high school (let’s call him Bob✨). Anyways- I was dating Bob- due to being peer pressured into the relationship. (side eye to the ppl who told me to.) I actually didn’t really like him- and I thought another guy was cute. (let’s call the other guy Tom)- but since I didn’t want to be called unloyal to Bob- I stopped thinking abt Tom- and I stopped talking to him as much. A couple weeks into the relationship- Bob started getting VERY possessive and being super super clingy. (It’s cute at first- but then it got really really bad)- Bob REFUSED to let me talk to any other guys or even LOOK and make eye contact with any guys. He started talking abt me behind my back to his friends and then I found out over fall break. His friend ended up being the one who told me that Bob wasn’t being a good bf. So I had enough and I broke it off. Then a couple months later, Tom and I started talking again as friends- he was really nice and I thought he was super cute- (but gng my family and friends all thought he was chopped ash💔) ANYWAYS. yeah. I started to like him again and found out that he liked me too- so we started dating. Another couple months passed and his parents found out. (his parents are like tiger asian parents iykwim). So we had to pretend to “break up”- we still dated in secret tho-

and then- the end of the school year came- and summer. I couldn’t talk to him over the summer bc his parents were still monitoring his phone for my texts- so then we didn’t talk. All of a sudden- I got a text from him saying that we actually needed to break up- that he was sorry- he “fell out of love”. it broke my heart and I ended up sitting on the floor for an hour crying. My parents found out and they were gonna beat his ass- (T-T). I convinced myself eventually that I didn’t like him anymore and then school. I saw him in the hallways and in one of my classes- and my heart absolutely melted. No matter what had happened over the summer and even though he broke my heart- I still loved him. He texted me and said that even though we broke up- he did it because of his parents- and that he wanted to be friends again. I told him that while he did break my heart- I STILL loved him. So I asked him this time. If we could date in secret. No one could know. Not even our best friends. just us. so we’re dating again. and I can’t fall out of love no matter what.

Side note: He still liked me over the summer- but he couldnt tell me that….

and uh- do you guys think I made the right decision? If you guys still have questions I’ll check the comments ever now and then haha

 

 

anyways: i need advice.

this is an update on the situation:

so. we cant talk at school unless we’re hiding somewhere together- and we cant text bc his parents are strict ash-

but. i really really miss him and i wanna talk to him and hangout- but idk what to do…?

i sent him a text last friday whenever he was at school so his parents wouldnt see- but he never responded. and idk if i should follow up or not and idk how to talk to him- because i dont want him to get in trouble. and i js feel so lost and confused because i want to talk and hangout but i dunno when and where to ask. should i email him at his school email…?